Question:
Théun, I am battling with the hurt I am experiencing as a result of my divorce. This hurt mostly comes from us starting to argue about how we should be splitting up our joint assets, and it is this that hurts me, mostly because I keep on wondering if our marriage meant nothing more than the acquisition of material things. How does one resolve hurt, Théun?
Théun’s Guidance:
My lovely Easterly friend, you are talking and thinking yourself round in circles! 
You are trying to RESOLVE the hurt instead of STAYING WITH the hurt, allowing it to guide you to a deeper understanding of yourself whereupon it will automatically DISSIPATE, having served its purpose! This is the TRUE meaning of the term “resolve,” that is, the intent to learn! But when it comes to intent, to resolving, the mind is a little less than useless!
The only REAL hurt there is, is when we are brought face to face with our INABILITY to MEET another unit of life with whom we have come very close in being able to truly meet! It is not the money, the houses, the furniture, the kitchens, the children, the dogs and parrots, but that indefinable some-thing else, loosely termed, love! In other words, whilst the mind occupies itself with material things such as houses, earnings, etc., it is the HEART that feels the wrench in the parting of ways, and the subsequent pain of loss – the deep sadness that comes from knowing that we were given a chance, but that somehow we screwed up! Sure it takes two to tango, and therefore it also takes two to screw up, but where there is a genuine openness of heart, or even just the BEGINNINGS of an opening of the heart, the sense of loss is always devastating in that one can always see one’s own role so clearly!
Within the heart there is no blame, no justifications, and if one knows that one has given that relationship one’s ALL, yet still failed, there are no regrets, no remorse, even though the pain of loss STILL cuts to the very core of one’s beingness! Why? Because deep down inside we all KNOW what the purpose of the spirit is, for it pulses through our beingness as surely as does our blood, the life essence! What is that purpose? At-one-ness, inclusiveness! And when we fail in doing OUR part in SUPPORTING that purpose, for whatever reason, our hearts cannot lie by pretending that all is fine, all is okay, but instead speaks the truth, and the truth is always sobering, and often hurts like all hell!
So, rather than getting yourself LOST in the petty world of an overactive and domineering mind, elevate your mind to its RIGHT-FULL place in helping you to think CLEARLY about how BEST you can play YOUR part in supporting the purpose of the spirit, for only in THIS way do you stand any chance at all in fighting your battles concerning relationships IMPECCABLY! These relationships include also your relationship with your business, with crystallized power, and above all, your relationship with THE male, namely, the spirit! Is it a battle we can ever win in the true sense of the word? Not really! The only thing that you and I CAN do is to fight an IMPECCABLE battle towards achieving at-one-ness, inclusiveness, you as a female, I as a male! And hopefully, by co-operating intelligently, we will BOTH gain a better under-standing of how to fight this battle, until one day we wake up from the madness of the dream, the madness being the ILLUSION of SEPARATIVENESS, to KNOW that we do not have to WIN the spirit’s love for us, for we ARE the spirit, irrespective of gender!
