I will tell you also that our system works this way. Men are guilty and they have to prove their innocence. It is the way it is in Western countries. They are not innocent until proven guilty. Did you not know that women don’t lie? cough, cough. The police used to speak up and say that between 60 - 80% of rape claims were false. Now they can’t because the feminists went after the police collectively on a world wide scale. Everything that the feminists do here in NZ they also do at around the same time in Canada, Australia, Europe and America. This is all very carefully calculated.

I will continue on to tell others what is going on because if you have sons you are for a big shock to what the feminists are doing. The radicals are back in charge and there is a lot that is going to happen in the next year.

I phoned mental health for help with my son one time when he was 17 because he got into a fight and was to go to court. The whole thing got thrown out but at the time I was scared and thought they could help. I stayed in all interviews THANK GOD and in one they ask him about sex. I told him to be honest before we went to the interview and this is what he said. “I see girls from behind wearing heels and mini skirts and I think a sexual thought but then when I see them from the front I think, ‘Damn, she’s only 12 or something.’ It is hard to know who to like.” I could see the eyes of the 2 female interviewers bulge and I literally put my hands up in a surrender gesture and said, “Take it easy. It is normal for teenage males to have sexual thoughts” But the the verdict was in and in writing. My son is a potential rapist on paper. How bad is that?

Now the feminists are fighting to have all background information included in court cases. Where is that going to leave my son? So I am fighting Mental health to fix this problem. But because they have to do things the feminist way and not common sense way, I am up against a brick wall. Any normal person would have said, “Good on ya son, you respect the age of the women.”

I am happy that you have commented and that you have been the “trade” for 20 years because then you can understand me and my frustration with the system. No the stats are not correct. Not for putting men in prison for 8-15 years of their lives. The stats consist of many forms of sexual abuse which range from feeling like you are forced into a situation like a wife who feels uncomfortable to have sex with her husband or boyfriend to being physically forced into sexual intercourse. This also includes women being drunk and regretting it the next day. Now if you were to ask males the same questions you would find that at least 1 out of 3 also are raped. If you were to ask men if they feel they are doing something they don’t like most would say yes. They would easily prefer to just come when they want instead of trying to hold on until the women is satisfied. And not just that but don’t you think young men feel pressured to perform. And on another note; males are not getting the women drunk to have sex with them. The women are getting themselves drunk. Look around at the behaviour of our women. They are sometimes more out of control than our males.

We are not being fair on them. And men DO get raped from women. But no-one acknowledges this. I have spoken with a rape crisis spokesperson and they deny that women rape and they deny that the women are getting themsleves drunk. In fact when I ask who represents the men, they mentioned one men’s group in Christchurch which last time I checked this year can’t get funding from the Government and they only deal with males who are raped by males.

And what about men’s refuges. Why can’t we have those. Why are we bound to policy that states, “Men are historically rapists and wife beaters” Why does the Human Rights Commission and the Families Commission ignore men’s needs.

I wrote to the Human Rights Commission and Roslyn Noonan told me they are aware of the discrimination of men. But they do nothing.

I know that lesbians are not anti male on the whole. In fact some are the ones who are pushing me to help the males.

But I hear what you are saying regarding a single parents group. And BTW, Auckland Women’s Centre is aware of my stand. They said it is not for any women’s groups to care about males. The male groups have to do that for themselves. It is hard for me to not notice the bias in the community or in Commissions or at Government level.

However, you are right to say this is not single mothers problem. This site should not be to address the bias for half our clients. Maybe you can help me out. Maybe over coffee.

The women working in the refuges in the 80’s and the 90’s considered the leaders, the same that are in politician positions mad as in insane. It would do you some good to start learning from those who have been working in the trade for longer than 10 years. The men’s groups can’t move. They can’t support the men because the feminists won’t allow them to do things their own way. That is wrong and that is biased.

Also I have a feminist friend who is one step away from being a politician. She will not speak up because she has worked hard for her position for 20 years. And she is not the only one. You need to understand this is not about you personally or your wonderful job. And you need to start asking to look at the questions the feminists use in their statistics.